Thursday, August 25, 2005

Advices

Recently, I was asked to give advices on how to raise children. This is what comes into my mind.

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire. -- William Butler Yeats

My son's 7th grade humanity teacher gave parents this quote from Yeats on the curriculum night and she asked us one important question, "What do you really want for your child?".

My answer was "to go to a good college" and her suggestion was for the child to become a critical thinker. That short exchange forever changed how I think about my kids' future. College is just 4 years of their life. The journey is much more to it. I need to prepare them to be strong for whatever problems future might throw at them.

In addition to being a critical thinker, I really want my kids to be happy. Recently, I read that there are three things making a person happy, (1) pleasure, (2) engagement and (3) meaning. The latter two contribute to a long-lasting satisfaction.

I have been fortunate to have good kids. I trust that they will choose a right path and lead a happy healthy life.

Advices

Recently, I was asked to give advices on how to raise children. This is what comes into my mind.

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire. -- William Butler Yeats

My son's 7th grade humanity teacher gave parents this quote from Yeats on the curriculum night and she asked us one important question, "What do you really want for your child?".

My answer was "to go to a good college" and her suggestion was for the child to become a critical thinker. That short exchange forever changed how I think about my kids' future. College is just 4 years of their life. The journey is much more to it. I need to prepare them to be strong for whatever problems future might throw at them.

In addition to being a critical thinker, I really want my kids to be happy. Recently, I read that there are three things making a person happy, (1) pleasure, (2) engagement and (3) meaning. The latter two contribute to a long-lasting satisfaction.

I have been fortunate to have good kids. I trust that they will choose a right path and lead a happy healthy life.

Sunday, August 14, 2005

Your child is listened to, understood and supported?

I recently read an article on overparenting from the Reader's digest's current issue (www.rd.com, September 2005). It discussed how today's parents have tried to create a perfect childhood for their children. By doing so, it may acutually hurt the children's ability to face real life in the future.

At the end, it showed an example of a good parent. A good parent makes sure his/her child feel he or she is listened to, understood and supported by the parent. The best gift a parent can give to a child is to teach him or her how to be himself or herself.

Your child is listened to, understood and supported?

I recently read an article on overparenting from the Reader's digest's current issue (www.rd.com, September 2005). It discussed how today's parents have tried to create a perfect childhood for their children. By doing so, it may acutually hurt the children's ability to face real life in the future.

At the end, it showed an example of a good parent. A good parent makes sure his/her child feel he or she is listened to, understood and supported by the parent. The best gift a parent can give to a child is to teach him or her how to be himself or herself.